“Someone's therapist knows all about you.” ~Dominic Riccitello Neurotypical should have therapy so that they are better able to navigate their inter-personal relationships more effectively - especially with us non-neurotypicals who've had to go through it already. This is something I've thought about a lot lately, and actually feel quite strongly frustrated about now. See… Continue reading Neurotypical People Need Therapy
Category: Sex, Dating & Relationships
My Mental Health ‘Coming Out’ Party
“PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.” ~ Susan Pease Banitt Facebook reminded me last week that it was four years to the day since my mental health coming out party. Or as I titled the event at the time my Taking Down My Christmas Tree Party. Because… Continue reading My Mental Health ‘Coming Out’ Party
Sex Under Pressure
(Image Source: Getty Images) “Revolution in Love’. Can you tell me what you mean by that? Do you want free love as against bourgeois marriage, or monogamy as against bourgeois promiscuity?” ~ Milan Kundera A, somewhat delayed, return to our #haveyouhadanorgasm series then. In the first post we mentioned that there is a of pressure surrounding sex… Continue reading Sex Under Pressure
Start A Conversation Today
(Getty Images) “Bad enough to be ill, but to feel compelled to deny the very thing that, in its worst and most active state, defines you is agony indeed.” ~ Sally Brampton Some time earlier this year, I can't remember exactly when, around the time that Germanwings pilot deliberately crashed his plane, I decided that I… Continue reading Start A Conversation Today
What Do We Mean By ‘Sex’ Anyway?
(Getty Images:Timothy Shonnard) “Good sex is like good bridge. If you don't have a good partner, you'd better have a good hand.” ~ Mae West Right, back to our #haveyouhadanorgasm series. (I don't recommend reading this at work or anywhere that your grandmother might read it over your shoulder during your festive family gatherings.) As we… Continue reading What Do We Mean By ‘Sex’ Anyway?
Have You Had An Orgasm?
“A woman's orgasm is such a fragile thing, dependant as much upon her mind as on her clitoris.” ― Megan Hart Ladies, have you ever had an orgasm? I had a conversation over the weekend with a bunch of women in their mid thirties. Almost half of them had never had an orgasm. Most of… Continue reading Have You Had An Orgasm?
Consent: Also For Women
"So what's the best way, in day-to-day life, to establish what someone likes? Well, we fucking ask them." ~ Cordelia Fine So, following a discussion I recently had on Facebook, prompted by this Ravishly article around practicing consent as a heterosexual woman, I agreed to write my thoughts on the subject of women and consent.… Continue reading Consent: Also For Women
My Father In A Flash
“People are supposed to aspire to become their fathers, not shudder at the thought.” ~ Veronica Roth My dad doesn't like me very much. Or in fact at all. Apparently this one time when I was a toddler I did something so heinously manipulative that over a quarter of a century later he still hasn't come… Continue reading My Father In A Flash
If You Need Relationship Advice You’re Probably In the Wrong Relationship
(Image Credit) “They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald If you really need relationship advice I tend to think that's probably a sign that you're in the wrong relationship. Says the woman who spends about a third of her blog pontificating about ways to have better relationships. But… Continue reading If You Need Relationship Advice You’re Probably In the Wrong Relationship
Everyone You Ever Love Is Going To Hurt You
“Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry Everyone you ever love will hurt you. And you… Continue reading Everyone You Ever Love Is Going To Hurt You