#StartAConversation, Mental health

What’s It Like Being A Borderline?

“In some ways, com­ing to terms with my­self and work­ing to­ward re­cov­ery has been like say­ing “I love you” to some­one but keep­ing a loaded gun hid­den in your back pocket, just in case that per­son pisses you off enough.” ~ Kiera Van Gelder So, those of you who follow me on Twitter may know that I've… Continue reading What’s It Like Being A Borderline?

#StartAConversation, Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing, Relationships

My Mental Health ‘Coming Out’ Party

“PTSD is a whole-body tragedy, an integral human event of enormous proportions with massive repercussions.” ~ Susan Pease Banitt Facebook reminded me last week that it was four years to the day since my mental health coming out party. Or as I titled the event at the time my Taking Down My Christmas Tree Party. Because… Continue reading My Mental Health ‘Coming Out’ Party

Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing

Mental Illness Is Not…

“It's my experience that people are a lot more sympathetic if they can see you hurting, and for the millionth time in my life I wish for measles or smallpox or some other easily understood disease just to make it easier on me and also on them.” ~ Jennifer Niven Mental illness is not...  > ...your… Continue reading Mental Illness Is Not…

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Start A Conversation Today

(Getty Images) “Bad enough to be ill, but to feel compelled to deny the very thing that, in its worst and most active state, defines you is agony indeed.” ~ Sally Brampton Some time earlier this year, I can't remember exactly when, around the time that Germanwings pilot deliberately crashed his plane, I decided that I… Continue reading Start A Conversation Today

Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing

Depression Is No More About Strength Than it Is About Weakness

"Depression isn't a sign of weakness, it's a sign that you've been strong for too long." ~ Elizabeth Gilbert "The strongest people are not those who show strength in front of us but those who win battles we know nothing about." "The struggle you're in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow. Don't… Continue reading Depression Is No More About Strength Than it Is About Weakness

Life, Working

I’m Not Going To China

I'm not going to China. I couldn't get a working visa. I'm not sure what I'm going to do instead. I'm currently in the process of applying for almost every job in the country, and one or two abroad. Also considering going back to university to get more qualified, because I know I need a… Continue reading I’m Not Going To China

#StartAConversation, Life, Mental health, Physical health, Relationships


"The discovery of truth is prevented more effectively, not by the false appearance things present and which mislead into error, not directly by weakness of the reasoning powers, but by preconceived opinion, by prejudice." ~ Arthur Schopenhauer When I studied for my sociology A Level our teacher always used to say that if we were… Continue reading Sub-Cultured

Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing

Who Am I?

I went to another meeting today, an appeal hearing, to discuss the ongoing saga of my grievance against my employer. At least I think it was me. And yet somehow I was the only person in the room that I didn't recognise. There was the woman from HR, my manager's manager, and this strange quiet,… Continue reading Who Am I?

Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing

You’re Depressed, I Have Depression – Here’s The Difference…

(Getty Images/James Bray/Vetta) During my most recent bout of depression one person in particular has been convinced that if I only looked at the world in the same way he did then everything would be fine. Everyone has bad days he said, bad stuff happens to everybody, you just have to focus on the positives.… Continue reading You’re Depressed, I Have Depression – Here’s The Difference…

Mental health, Mental Health & Wellbeing

Going Slightly Mad

At times I'm a little bit nuts. I have depression and complex PTSD. The most frequent response I get when I tell people that I'm ill is, "No you're not." I am, really, I have a psychiatrist and everything. But I don't fit the caricature of a person with a mental health problem. My hair… Continue reading Going Slightly Mad