"So what's the best way, in day-to-day life, to establish what someone likes? Well, we fucking ask them." ~ Cordelia Fine So, following a discussion I recently had on Facebook, prompted by this Ravishly article around practicing consent as a heterosexual woman, I agreed to write my thoughts on the subject of women and consent.… Continue reading Consent: Also For Women
"There are three possible parts to a date, of which at least two must be offered: entertainment, food, and affection. It is customary to begin a series of dates with a great deal of entertainment, a moderate amount of food, and the merest suggestion of affection. As the amount of affection increases, the entertainment can… Continue reading Dating Advice For The Willfully Stupid
"Dylan (Justin Timberlake): Why can it not be like that? It's a physical act. Like playing tennis. Two people should be able to have sex like they're playing tennis. Jamie (Mila Kunis): Yeah! I mean, no one wants to go away for the weekend after they play tennis. Dylan: It's just a game. You shake hands, you get… Continue reading Why Having Sex Is Nothing Like Playing Tennis
"Being with an insanely jealous person is like being in the room with a dead mammoth." ~ Mike Nichols A couple of weeks ago I introduced you to The Imposter from My Life As Imposter. She talked about her life as a British Asian, and how she struggles with the Muslim Guilt Monster over matters of love… Continue reading By All Means Step Over My Cold, Dead Body and Save Yourself, You HARPY!
“I believe in recognizing every human being as a human being--neither white, black, brown, or red; and when you are dealing with humanity as a family there's no question of integration or intermarriage. It's just one human being marrying another human being or one human being living around and with another human being.” ~ Malcolm… Continue reading Love, Sex and Organised Religion
"Nothing defines humans better than their willingness to do irrational things in the pursuit of phenomenally unlikely payoffs. This is the principle behind lotteries, dating, and religion." ~ Scott Adams I've noticed lately that I'm getting significantly more spam, both on the blog and through my email. There also seems to be an ever larger… Continue reading Dating Advice For The Diffident
"I always wanted the fairy tale, but now I want someone who is a great partner." ~ Maria Bello We hear a lot of criticism of chick-flicks, chick-lit, and the Disney movie franchise for giving young women today unrealistic expectations about love. We hear about how the generations born from the seventies and onwards have… Continue reading Ever After
(Image Credit) "Love shouldn't be about jealousy or anything like that. It should be about commitment and being able to trust that person. If you can't have that from the get-go, there's a problem. " ~ Aaron Carter, showing an unexpected level of wisdom for a Backstreet Boy...* I've spent a good part of this… Continue reading Jealousy Does Not Become You
"Everything you see, I owe to spaghetti." ~ Sophia Loren So I've been reading some of the publicity around Robyn Lawley (above) becoming the first 'plus size' face of Ralph Lauren. Plus size of course meaning bigger than sample size, not necessarily big. This in turn got me to thinking about the many conversations about… Continue reading Size Is Just A Number
As those of you who read this page regularly may recall, back in August I had a date on a train with a guy who'd been sat in my seat. I've seen him a few times since then, and spoken to him a lot - nearly every day in fact. Things have been going really… Continue reading An (Almost) Perfect Conversation – How Telling A Date About Your Mental Health Should Go
Make-Up & Mirtazapine 