"So what's the best way, in day-to-day life, to establish what someone likes? Well, we fucking ask them." ~ Cordelia Fine So, following a discussion I recently had on Facebook, prompted by this Ravishly article around practicing consent as a heterosexual woman, I agreed to write my thoughts on the subject of women and consent.… Continue reading Consent: Also For Women
“A diamond doesn't start out polished and shining. It once was nothing special, but with enough pressure and time, becomes spectacular. I'm that diamond.” ~ Solange Nicole So I've been out of work, suffering with severe depression and anxiety, and basically living like a hermit since November last year. But over the past few weeks I've… Continue reading How to Project an Air of Confidence You Don’t Really Feel
“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe > First, fix yourself a drink. A nice cup of tea or coffee. A cool refreshing glass of fruit juice. A good whiskey or wine. Whatever beverage you think you'd most like right now. And sit down somewhere quiet… Continue reading How To Be Kind To Yourself
“Of course I’ll hurt you. Of course you’ll hurt me. Of course we will hurt each other. But this is the very condition of existence. To become spring, means accepting the risk of winter. To become presence, means accepting the risk of absence.” ~ Antoine de Saint-Exupéry Everyone you ever love will hurt you. And you… Continue reading Everyone You Ever Love Is Going To Hurt You
(Image Credit) “You can't patch a wounded soul with a Band-Aid.” ~ Michael Connelly So, actually quite some time ago now I wrote about things that I'd found it unhelpful of people to say about my PTSD. That post has been far and away the most viewed thing I've ever written and so I've decided to… Continue reading 5 More Things You Probably Shouldn’t Say to Someone With PTSD
"The best kind of rain, of course, is a cozy rain. This is the kind the anonymous medieval poet makes me remember, the rain that falls on a day when you’d just as soon stay in bed a little longer, write letters or read a good book by the fire, take early tea with hot… Continue reading Simple Scones
(Warning: this post contains detailed discussion of self-harm.) "There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." ~ William Shakespeare I decided to write this because almost everything that I've seen about self harm in the media and online discusses it as being almost exclusively an issue for young people, primarily teenagers.… Continue reading I Cut Myself To Feel Better
It's probably inadvisable to read this post at work. "I believe that sex is the most beautiful, natural, and wholesome thing that money can buy." ~ Steve Martin You remember those spam adverts and pop-ups offering me sex that I told you about the other day? Well, in addition to assuming that their offer presented… Continue reading You Keep Using That Word, I Don’t Think It Means What You Think It Means
"No one likes getting their nails done more than I do." ~ Serena Williams I got my nails done. As my doctor prescribed. In April last year I began having appointments with my doctor at least once a week. After the mental health crisis team became involved in my treatment she wasn't willing to prescribe… Continue reading Nail Art – Just What The Doctor Ordered
Photo source: BBC "I hate interviews - but you have to do them." ~ Jackie Chan Sorry it's been a bit quiet around here this week. I've been a bit busy. Mostly being interviewed. And when I haven't been being interviewed, I've been applying to be interviewed. I've barely had time to get any sleep… Continue reading What To Do if You Fluff A Job Interview
Make-Up & Mirtazapine 